Parenting with Energy

Guest post from RochelleMcFarlane, published also on espparent.com

Too often I hear things I wish I hadn’t especially when it comes to raising the future generation, particularly when in public, the interactions between parents and children.  I coax and remind myself that learning isn’t on everyone’s agenda.  I’m using moments like this to reflect upon myself and seeing where I can grow further to be better in my own life, knowing that we all serve a unique purpose.

I believe that our Children are life assets and I am very passionate about increasing this awareness.  For we as parents get one shot with our wee ones and the future depends on our effectiveness.
I take moments through out each week to make a point of seeing how I can get better for several reasons, first off I’m perfect just not yet complete.  What was perfect today will be obsolete tomorrow for today I learned more than what I thought I knew yesterday.  Everyday my better is increased from the previous day, just the way it works.  Keeping this mindset gifts me greatly and helps keep me motivated through the rough moments.
Until you don’t know what you don’t know, life ceases to be boring and mundanely redundant where one can experience insanity.
Experiencing life through the eyes of my children keeps life fresh and the learning moments frequent, the imagination alive and me feeling younger each day.
How does this relate to energy and how it works in the body?
Well let’s take a look at the laws of attraction first.  Research has shown that where we place our attention is where our energy flows, it’s the law of attraction.
Maybe it could also be called the law of attention since energy flows to the focal point.  This can be applied to parenting in so many ways.
Like for example, this is something I hear a lot from other parents.
“I don’t have time to workout, make food from scratch, play with my children, time for a hobby etc.  My children don’t listen to me, they are out of control, I don’t know what to do etc “
Complaining about not having enough time wires the brain to see only the lack of time instead of creative ways of using time, allowing and giving permission to observe from a narrow focal point of “not enough” creating a scarcity mind set.   The mutual effect with any of the other ideas as listed above too, the brain creates the energy wave lengths to suit the thoughts and justification of complaint.
Start seeing where you are spending your time, is it on things that bring you joy or is it on things that bring you down ?  Are your thoughts bringing you closer to your desired results ?
During my parenting journey I have been learning so much about how the  energy works within the body so I can keep up with the demands of the job at hand, raising the future generation to the best of my abilities.
Learning about energy in the body on a more in depth level has been one of the greatest gifts to myself and to my family.  It’s helped me see how it all makes sense now, creating that wholistic alignment of energy within the whole being.  It’s about bringing together the thoughts, emotions, actions, all the while the body’s electrical field being apart of this formulation to create all the good in life and this experience.  Too often I have witnessed a separation in these facets and results can still be obtained but not as efficiently when all systems are on the same page.
In parenting children can sense when we are off and they soak that up, reacting to it.  Also when we are low in energy we tend to live in the world of reaction instead of pro actions.
So how do I apply this to life without getting overwhelmed and short circuiting my “breaker box”
Just like eating a huge meal, one bite at time and making sure I soak up all the nutrients in manageable pieces by chewing slowly with purpose.
For starters I make time for the things that bring me joy, keeping myself active, enjoying deeply nourishing foods, and staying hydrated !  Drinking at the very minimum of 1 fluid ounce of pure water for every 3 pounds of my body’s mass.   When stress is added into our lives, our experience we require more water.   This is a great lessons learned from when I took my Touch for Health training, there’s a link here for more information.
Hydration alone seems like such a no brainer and yet many people this is the first step that can be a simple solution in generating increased health experience.  I believe because it’s so simple many of us discount it as a valid action and not bother following through with it.
Since paying attention to our hydration levels in our family and increasing pure water, the energy has changed and has increased with ease !  Now making the connection of how water assists the body with so many functions, drinking water is now thought of as consuming more life energy in our household.  With water being a conductor, it’s pure form allows for the electrical flow in the body with ease and least amount  resistance.
Living with the seasons, seeing how they affect our daily living and respecting the cycles of the elements has been a huge eye opener as well!
I used to think that one of my children was harder to parent because he was most like me, true still yet when discovering the element flows and cycles my world changed, my understanding deepened.  Here it goes in a nutshell… Fire feeds Earth, Earth creates Metal, Metal releases Water, Water hydrates Wood, Wood fuels Fire in one cycle.  Now the opposing cycle Water doses Fire, Fire melts Metal, Metal chops Wood, Wood roots Earth and Earth drinks Water.
One of my sons and I are in a reversed flow cycle, meaning his primary element energy controls mine !

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Here’s Zander and I having some fun while out for a “date”… he’s my mini me, something I can embrace with deep joy

This has been such a game changer discovering this.  Now instead of the struggle, I accept that it’s a natural flow of energy and consciously choose to step back and observe instead of fueling the blaze.  What do I do instead?  Glad you asked…well I get creative, calm and centered which allows the space to exist where I am only in control of myself and my energy within me.  I listen to my self talk, like what my thoughts and take back control there by choosing thoughts that will drain the fuel and increase the calm from within me first.  This step helps to create a calmer and more collected me, then I am capable of empowering
myself to deal with the situation with my son.  Where as in the past I would allow this reversed flow of energy to instigate further chaos between us where I would justify my negative reactions to his
outbursts and be a dictator like mother.  This would then drive me into a state of angry, guilt and sadness filled cycle of rage…truly not bringing out my best nor his.  I am ever so grateful for having increased my self awareness and educating myself on the five elements to create a more effective style of parenting, he is too and he’s now more aware of how we can work together in harmony as a whole family.

Life is meant to be fun and enjoyable especially when you’re a parent cause these little life assets look up to you for answers and guidance, it’s an opportunity to self educate in the fast track of vitality.  Choosing to grasp onto concepts that nourish the spirit, that suit your soul, encourage  discovery what works for you and your flow is vitally important.  It’s like an investment for your personal energy system and will pay dividends for generations to come.
Our children will mirror examples they have acquired over time from the source.
Wanting different results ?Pour your efforts into making changes at your source, trying to augment the reflection is just a waste of time.

Curious what your thoughts are after reading this article and how it’s  brought value to your day, please add your comments below.
Namaste

Alexis

Alexis is the creator of the GEMS program. She is an Instructor, Practitioner, Speaker and Writer in her field. www.alexiscostello.com

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